i dunno where this belongs
i dunno where this topic actually belongs but i will just chuck it here anyway. Mod please move my thread if it is not suitable to b placed here
ok, I have a little problem. Forumers please help me out. Im very very confused TT__TT
1) I am very very afraid that i will lose my boyfriend which resulted me to get overly jealous. I was jealous to the extend that i can get into an arguement with him when we are watching white chicks (the sexy girls were changing clothes) and he make this "slurp" sound. What should i do? Am i very unreason-able? :upset:
2) On one of the phone call conversations, he pointed out that he liked a straight-forward girl which his former EX have. He said "u know, i would be happy if u have her attitude"
This sound very normal rite? But apparently, before this he asked me to be more gentle and caring. Lady like. Then 2 months later, he asked me to change to a little sporty like and wear jeans. Reason, alot of guys were staring at me. Now he wants something that is totaly contrast with wat he used to want. Is he bored of me?
I was so confused with this i ended up trying to commit suicide..
yah, im stupid. I know
3) He was lying to me.... I got pics of him with another girl.. hugging. I dare not ask for more... i dunno wat to do...i love him very very much...
You are better than this, really!!
I got so sad reading your post. Please do not hurt yourself. And please know you are worth more than any boy can ever make you feel!!
I think that you are a little over-worried, but many girls your age (I am guessing your age here) are this way and a supporting guy would understand and be flattered that you are jealous. However, if you get too jealous, you will ruin a relationship. Even if you don't show the jealousy, but you have it, you will ruin it. If the jealousy is warranted--he is hugging others or teasing you--then be honest about it and maybe be ready to move on.
I think your "jealousy" is just fear. You seem too scared to lose him. I know what it feels like; you would not know where to begin or how your life could function with out him. But it has to!!! No life can be dependent on another for happiness, self-worth, etc. I know that if he wasn't your boyfriend everything could be just fine. You may actually be happier--at least you would not have this huge fear. So, I suggest that you start by decreasing your fear of losing him, that will help with the jealous.
I cannot say this enough or as strong as I would like...but I am sure that you are an amazing person. You should never settle and have every right to be happy. Please take care of yourself and best of luck.