dating asian women

hi to all ,just curious need help , i have definately met my soul mate and she is japanese.
which is fine ,she is attractive and extremely talented ,she is the same age into the exact same music as me and enjoys doing same stuff ,we went out together and spent like the whole day and some of the night and it seemed like time went way to quick .
i really want to take this further but i have moved to australia and she lives in nz .there is nothing holding her there ,i need some advice on the cultural differences between asians and european as far as the whole dating ritual or should i just do what i normally do
thanks to everyone who replys

European men and Asian women is a tragic combo. I have never seen such couples last more than a few years. The novelty in the beginning may seem exciting, but once you pass that and you realize the differences in culture and ways are too great, then things turn ugly. White men seem to perceive asian women as calm, submissive, gentle, yadda yadda yadda. Let me tell you, from experience, it's all an act! Asian women are anything BUT submissive and gentle. You'll find out. G'luck.

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Originally Posted by Kaius [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

European men and Asian women is a tragic combo. I have never seen such couples last more than a few years. The novelty in the beginning may seem exciting, but once you pass that and you realize the differences in culture and ways are too great, then things turn ugly. White men seem to perceive asian women as calm, submissive, gentle, yadda yadda yadda. Let me tell you, from experience, it's all an act! Asian women are anything BUT submissive and gentle. You'll find out. G'luck.

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NO WAY

my mom is japanese and my dad is european and they've been apart from eachother when i was younger...twice (not has in divorced), japanese girls are very caring and i think maybe if you slow things down and tell her how you feel about the situation i think youll be okay.
ive had the same problem but everything worked out.

even if she is asian, if she live in nz, her thinking will change. Dont think about her as an asian anymore but an european lady who you must treat gently ... I'm asian and i know what i'm talking about. Most european guys have the mistake of assuming the asian lady they are with are traditional asians... If they are with you, they arent traditional asian...

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NO WAY

my mom is japanese and my dad is european and they've been apart from eachother when i was younger...twice (not has in divorced), japanese girls are very caring and i think maybe if you slow things down and tell her how you feel about the situation i think youll be okay.
ive had the same problem but everything worked out.

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Your mom is from japan and your dad is from europe?

And how did you have the same problem?

You're from japan?

I have several Asian friends, and I even studied in Japan for a while. I can honestly say that I have seen many successful White/Japanese relationships. In fact, many of my Japanese female friends have confessed that their life long dream was to snag a white guy, lol.

The key to success in a cross-cultural relationship though is communication. You should be talking to her about all this - tell her that you feel like you may have gone too fast; how does she feel about it? She may have some reservations about it too but may not want to risk losing you or offending you so isn't saying anything.

I should also say that I (as a white female) have dated guys from all over the world. Even though their cultures were all pretty diverse from one another, again the key was just being open minded and always communicating when we felt unsure or unhappy about something. Also remember that within group differences are bigger than between group differences (i.e. people within a group will have more differences among each other than people from different groups).

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Asian women are anything BUT submissive and gentle. You'll find out. G'luck.

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LOL^. I work and train with asian women. Its true.

I know lots of mixed couples. Usually, in cases where the marriage runs into problems, it was the man with the initial misconceptions or false expectations about a wife from a particular culture.

From everything I've seen, the challenges of marriage aren't any different for white/asian/indian, etc. Women are women and men are men. Ultimately, it always boils down to finding a partner who is compatible, regardless of their cultural background.

i have a thing for japanese women, specially after watching so much Japanese porn over the years, They look conservative but they will do any thing for their men and i mean the nastiest of things

Seriously, I can't stand the stereotypes of "dating" an asian woman. Perhaps you can stop looking at her ethnicity and look at her as an individual. Communicate with her to find out what she wants from you, as well as what you want from her. If you two can fulfill eachother's needs, then did the ethicity have anything to do with it?

Thanks to all replies ,thanks enigmos im not looking at her ethnicity im attracted to what she is all about what she does what she knows ,just checking to see if there was any thing different to way they date

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Originally Posted by kms [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I have several Asian friends, and I even studied in Japan for a while. I can honestly say that I have seen many successful White/Japanese relationships. In fact, many of my Japanese female friends have confessed that their life long dream was to snag a white guy, lol.

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That's fundamentally a flawed reason to date someone.....for their color? As I said before, once the novelty wears off, the couple will have the same problems as any other couples. With the cultural differences, it is MUCH harder to overcome the problems. I have 8 friends with Asian mom and White dad. All 8 sets of parents divorced before kids reached age 10. There are certainly statistics out there that further prove this. The strange thing is....when the woman is white and the man is asian, the success rate goes up significantly. I am convinced that asian men and white women are more compatible in the long run than the other way around.

I'm Chinese, my bf is mixed american (he is irish dutch english scottish mix), anyway, he doesn't even know what he is, lets just say, white guy with asian girl.
We been together for 2 years, had long distance relationship for half a year(I was in Maine, he was in New York), and living together(in Boston) for a year now, we talk about anything and do everything together
The important thing is the love between you 2, don't think about the culture differences and all that crap, as long as you communicate well, open up to each other, and be honest, you won't have a problem! Trust me.
Good luck for everything!

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Originally Posted by Enigmos [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Seriously, I can't stand the stereotypes of "dating" an asian woman. Perhaps you can stop looking at her ethnicity and look at her as an individual. Communicate with her to find out what she wants from you, as well as what you want from her. If you two can fulfill eachother's needs, then did the ethicity have anything to do with it?

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Of course it does.

Tell her you have money and will open a nail salon for her...