okay; honest opinions please.
Okay, so i am 20 and my boyfriend is 21 and have been together a year and a month.
I have stated some issues below and would like any feedback on them, these are things which make me feel unappreciated by him. I do not know if i am simply over reacting... or if i have genuine reason to be concerned. My friends have told me he is abit of an idiot and to just leave the relationship but i love him very much. Id like to know if im expecting too much and sound like a complete bitch or if he is genuingly just taking the mess out of me.
1. My boyfriend gets up for work at 4am and insists on having the lights on for half an hour or so whilst he gets ready for work. I struggle to get to sleep on a night due to worry & stress and the second the light goes on.. thats me awake. I find it impossible to get back to sleep so i am also getting up at 4am when i have no reason to be or taking me atleast 2 hours to get back to sleep, either way im left tired throughout the day and mardy due to broken sleep. Ive asked my boyfriend if he will leave his things in the other room before we go to sleep and if he will get ready in there instead but he calls me selfish and refuses to do so, i dont see it unreasonable to ask him to get his shoes on at the door, why does it matter where he gets dressed?
2. I suffer from low self esteem. My boyfriend feels the constant need even though i have told him it bothers me to tell me how attractive people on the television are, not always celebrities. I know this one sounds pathetic but fair enough if he thinks it but does he really have to tell me how hot some girl auditioning for the xfactor is?
3. I do everything for him. Im all for looking after my man but its just ridiculous now; little tasks which any grown 21 year old manage to do my boyfriend seems to struggle with. I tidy our bedroom everyday and he feels it okay to leave his dirty clothes laying around, food packets, glasses hes drank from.. i feel like he is my child. I get no help from him whatsoever. For example, i was ill the other day and had not got out of bed due to feeling so rubbish. He came home and i made him his tea, i was sick instantly after trying to eat something and my boyfriend just went upstairs to his laptop and left me to clean up after dinner knowing how i felt. I cook for him everyday and make his lunch for work, yet i ask him for a cup of tea and get the "do it yaself"
4. I am really easy to please and in no way materialistic but everyone likes a nice gesture now and again, right?. I always feel like everything which is for me is "too much effort". My girlfriends all talk about that nice bunch of flowers they received or that box of chocolates or how their boyfriend took them out on the weekend for a meal. Mine doesnt do anything like this and whereas most girls like to be wined and dined or spoilt rotten, i'd be quite content if he came home an stuck a DVD on with me with a bottle of wine on a friday night. However whenever i ask to do something i get told im needy and nothing is ever good enough. He comes in from work, sits on his laptop most of the night and goes to bed. Wheres the effort with me? - i try very hard with him but get nothing back. We have no romance.
5. I am not a very sexual confident person, but i try. Our sex life is pretty repetative and i feel like we sleep together when i have mentioned it an hour or so before, its not like he just jumps on me.. so in a way i feel like he feels like he has to do it. I came across naked photos of his ex girlfriend on his old phone which he lent me as mine broke and overheard him telling his friend one night about how he use to video his other ex girlfriend. I know hes into all this stuff obviously, but has never tried anything like this with me; athough im not into all this myself it makes me feel very bad about me and my body.
THANKS.