Am I being possesive or realistic?
This seems like a reasonable forum, so I thought I'd post my situation here.
My girlfriend and I have been dating for four months. Our relationship has been great for the most part, except I don't know if I can trust her. She hasn't specifically given me a reason not to, but let me explain.
Two months after we started dating, she tells me the reason she hasn't brought me over to her place was due to the fact that a month prior to our relationship, her ex from a year ago moved in with her and her brother because he had nowhere else to go. She assured me nothing was going on between them, but she didn't want to bring me around to upset him since he did indeed pay a third of the rent. I commended her honesty, but asked why she cared about how he felt about us. She said she didn't, just didn't want to make her and her bro's living situation uncomfortable. She assured me he'd be out at the end of June. This was in May.
So June goes by, we're in love, talking about getting a place together... but her ex still lives with them and I still haven't seen her place (she won't even let me pick her up... we always meet or she drives to my place). Her brother is leaving for college soon so it'll just be her and her ex. She tells me he'll be out before then and I remind her he was supposed to be gone last month. She usually gets defensive, saying that she's trying.... but we'll be out and he'll be texting her.
Last week after work, I asked her if she wanted to hang out and she tells me she's having a drink with her accountant, who's like 40 years old (we're both early 20's). She calls me at midnight, drunk, driving home. I freaked out. Who in a relationship has a drink until midnight with someone twice her age while her boyfriend is at home?
Yesterday, she calls me around lunch time and we talk for a bit... I ask her what she's up to and she says she just got back from a run with an old friend, Tyler. She assures me it was "nothing romantic." Again, is it just me or wtf?
We hang out almost everyday. We just came back from a five day road trip, it was awesome. I have no doubt I want to be with this girl, but am I being possessive, paranoid or are my feelings justified? What can I do?