I need some light shed on to this

Because I am really f*cking confused.

I saw my ex boyfriend.


I've actually been avoiding him for the past 3 months, but he keeps popping up like the puss filled zit right before graduation.

So we were talking. And somehow we got on to the subject of our 'relationship'. I.E., are we friends and such. And his response was that, he was always my friend and that we will always be in some kind of contact, because 'we have a special emotional attachment to each other that will never go away.' He also went on to say that he has always thought of me as being his, but not in THAT WAY apparently. But yet, he wants a friendship with extra more. So I took this as, he wants a f*ck buddy and left it at that.

But then he CALLED later, and I was talking about this date I have coming up on saturday, and he again reiterated how he always thought of me as his within his heart. And so I asked, what did he want from me, why is he hanging around so. And his answer was: the total package, he wants all of me.
He told me I could go out and date other men, but he would stay solely physically, mentally, focused on me. Which meant, he wouldn't date anyone else. Which confuses me, because, how is that fair in a relationship? One person dating everyone, while the other stays monogamous?

He says he wants to be my friend with extra......
....then says he wants to be with me, like a man would in a serious relationship.

Maybe I'm missing the picture?
I'm so confused............

Why were you talking to him at all?

he sounds like a desperate guy...that wants a fk toy. nothing more.

It sounds like as long as you two are in any kind of contact that this will keep popping up. He sounds rather manipulative. If you can deal with this constantly popping up and won't get sucked into it you might be able to stay friends. I know if it were me though I'd simply make it clear that there is nothing between us since our views are so different and wash my hands for him thoroughly, going as far as to cut his off totally.

Maybe he's into cuckold. Maybe he's a submissive.

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Originally Posted by Boisdevie [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Why were you talking to him at all?

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Well, the first time, he just, POPPED UP. I turned around, and BAM there he was. I literally kind've shrieked a bit when I saw him. So that's how the first conversation got started.
With the phone call, I knew he wanted to tell me something, and I wanted to know what it was.

Unless you're cool with the arrangement he wants, or don't mind hearing about it on a regular basis you should probably lose his number and advise him to do the same.