I'm a little lost here, guys. In short, my girlfriend and I have been together for 4 and a half years. She's about to start her second year of college. Before she started college, her parents didn't really let her do much. Due to that, when she got to college and was exposed to a whole new world, she enjoyed every moment of it - and every drop of it. For the first semester, she went out a lot and would drink pretty heavily. When second semester rolled around, she cut back severely, for a few reasons. For one, she began to realize she's in college for academic study; her future, and she's not there to drink. Also, she nearly messed up. When I say nearly, she was downright drunk, and got herself into a bad situation, but luckily took charge and got out of it right away. But still, that worried me.
This year I'm not sure what to think. One side of me wants her to stop drinking, another side says she learned her lesson and she can be a responsible drinker. I mean, as I said, once second semester hit, she would be lucky to have 2 beers a week outside of her dorm room. When I say outside of her dorm room, I mean actually going out somewhere. She likes to sit at her desk and enjoy a Corona while she types up a research paper or watches a movie - that sort of thing. I'm perfectly fine with that, I just want her to know when to stop when she's out - Which as I said, one side of me says no drinking period, another says her nearly goofing up was more than enough to scare her into being responsible. Since then, which is nearly a year now, she has given me no reason not to believe this.
Help me out guys. Am I being too hard on her by saying she needs to stop drinking all together? What should I do? Should I allow her to have a few drinks while she's out somewhere, as long as she knows when to stop? Just fill me in on what you think you would do in this situation...
