My BF and I have been dating for 6 months. Thing have moved quick as he asked me to be his GF after dating for 1.5 weeks. He said he loved me after 2 weeks of dating. He told me at church because he wanted it to be special. He always pays for my meals and he has bought me a lot of amazing gifts. I do love him but over time there are some things that make me curious about his behavior and if it is normal. We spend all most everyday together but we let each other have our space. I have noticed when I don’t see him in Saturday’s he will call a lot through the day or text he will usually convince me to come over eventhough I’m with my family. I don’t mind because I love being with him. He gets upset when I don’t do things the way he feels they should be done. He once lectured me for 15 minutes because he took the trash out and later in the middle of the night I threw a tissue in the can and didn’t replace the can liner. I worry because I have seen him push his son when his son dropped a piece of sports equipment he had just bought him. He yelled at him and told him he had better apologize if he wanted him to stop yelling. He once lightly poked me in the back when I wasn’t moving fast enough in the store.
There are more examples of strange behavior one is two nights ago I was rubbing his leg and I guess he didn’t like the way I did it. I accidentally pinched his skin. He got upset and said it’s like I have no common sense. He said nobody would rub a leg that way He said I can be aloof and I accidentally hurt him because I wasn’t paying attention.( I have accidentally hurt him a few times and he gets really upset) He went on and when I tried to interject he snapped his fingers at me for trying to interrupt. After a while of him talking I got upset because of the way he was saying these things they weren’t really kind and I told him that he was being mean. He then went on to say that I have no confidence in our relationship and that the only way he would break up with me is if I cheated or lied so I need to stop being so worried. He said this because when he gets mad I will text him the next day to apologize because I feel bad that I made him upset I do send him long messages but it’s because I feel like a bad girlfriend. He told me I’m too sensitive and that I take the things he says and does wrong. I cried and shut down.
he tried to comfort me and was being sweet the next 2-3 days. The fact that he is so sweet after makes me think that this is my fault. There have been other issues like this where he may get upset about things I do like if I forget to turn the 2nd light off in the bathroom or things like that. He tells me he is willing to wait for me to learn how to do better. I feel like yes maybe it is my fault because I’m making mistakes and he gets so upset that I feel horrible for making him mad. I’m not sure if I’m wrong or he is just easy to get upset. I’m very confused and if anyone has advice I would appreciate it. He says all the time he wants to marry me and that he loves me so much and I know that he does but I want some advice on this. If you need more info let me know.