how do i get him to realize he needs help?
So, my recently ex boyfriend is kind of scaring me. He tells me that he's not normal and incapable of feeling pain because he won't let himself feel emotions and can take punches well. He said he's got "the basics of a stone cold killer".
When we were in a relationship together he would never argue with me (because he believes relationships shouldn't have arguements in them, whereas I believe that arguements implement needed communication and are bound to happen since no two people are the same). However, he would get mad for really small things elsewhere, the cashier told him that his $2 bill wasn't legitamite currency so he blew up at him, we went to a community festival and a girl came up to us and asked where she could find drugs and he yelled "this is why i don't go into public anymore!", small things like that happen and it will ruin his entire day. He's got horrible roadrage and constantly talks about how stupid other people are.
He had a troubled past and was abused as a child, he was also in and out of jail as a teen/early 20's, and I know that has a huge impact on him now.
I don't think it's healthy to repress all your emotions. I'm afriad that one day he's just going to snap and actually kill someone. He used to be really sweet and respectful and he seemed happy, he told me some about his past and I thought it was good because it seemed like he was determined to not make the same mistakes with his kids as his father did with him, and through his run-ins with the law he'd finally learned his lesson. Now I fear that it was all an act, that the only thing he's learned is how to hide how emotionally unstable and tortured he is. The stuff he says now just sounds crazy.
I know he needs to talk to a therapist or something. When I suggested it back when we were together he said that he'd been to one before and it didn't work for him so he didn't want to waste his money, but I think that maybe he just didn't give it a chance or he had the wrong one.
I don't know how to convince him that he needs help and if he doesn't get it he may be headed for disaster. Maybe I can't convince him and there's nothing more that i can do for him, but any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.