How much contact should you have with your ex
My boyfriend cheated on his now ex with me less than a year ago (after having decided to break up but had not told her yet) and we've been together for 8 months now. Things are going great but in the beginning, my concscience and my feelings were in constant battle with the other and he was the one to help me through it all. Eventually everything settled down and i am completely in love with him. They had been together for 4 years but he told me that he had been cheating since the end of their first year and couldn't bring himself to break up with her because she was in a very fragile state then.
The problem is, this girl was extremely emotionally dependent on him and i can tell he still really cares about her which is perfectly fine by me. However, they are still very much in touch which is hard for me to ignore but given the circumstances surrounding us getting together, i somehow feel that it's not in my place to demand that he not spend as much time talking to her on the phone or on msn. He took her out to dinner once for old times sake, has lots of classes with her since they're doing the same major, and he helps her with her homework a lot. He constantly tells me that there's nothing between them and that i shouldn't worry but he's kinda shady about the whole situation. For example, if he's chatting online with her, and i happen to look at his screen, he'll close it immediately and tell me to go away and get quite angry (he's a little impatient anyhow). he doesn't do this with anyone else. and if he's not hiding anything, why is he behaving like that?
Everytime i bring it up, he swears that nothing's going on and he just wants his privacy. It's just that I don't think people move on by keeping in such close contact... am i wrong or is he? I am not on good terms with his ex and she doesn't like me because of what happened obviously... and knowing that he's on such good terms with someone who hates me really bothers me as well. does he love me or am i blind? will he cheat on me like he did her? heellpp