Cyber cheating …is it really damaging?
Cyber cheating …is it really damaging?
I would like to ask your opinion on this, as it is eating me up inside and I can’t talk to anyone about it.
I have been in a relationship for 2 years with a man that has been “cyber cheating” the entire time. When I met him I knew he was a major flirt, he is a model and gets a lot of attention from fans online. I knew this going into the relationship and thought it was just playful flirting with nothing serious going on. Lately it has been bothering me more and more. We never have sex anymore, the handful of times that we do he seems uninterested and distracted…or he just talks about other woman the entire time. I am a very understanding and open-minded woman, I normally do not mind such talk but when he stopped being attracted to me altogether I recognized a problem. I know it is not just one woman he talks to, it’s many different ones...all the time. He “hot chats” with them till late hours of the night and won’t open up his email when I’m near as it is filled with lurid photos that these girls have sent him. I have been in open relationships before and thought that this “innocent” flirting was something that I would be cool with. But lately I’ve been wondering if it is damaging our relationship more than I realized, my easy going nature may be the downfall of our sexual relationship. Somehow I have been moved to the position of best friend/nurturer and removed from the lover position.
I don’t know if there is any way to regain this back, I truly do love him but these “online activities” are really getting to me.
Perhaps I would not feel that way if we still had sex.
I really don’t know.
But I am curious how people feel about these “online games” that their mates play…should I be upset? Is it pure innocence, I know he is not meeting with these girls…just purely using them for fantasy reasons.
Any input would help.
Thank you!
Ginger Lee