Can anything good come out of this? What would you do if you were in my shoes?
What would you recommend that I do?
This guy and I met 3 years ago, I was in my late 20's and we had a fling, I was very much in love with him. At the time, things ended in a way that made me not want to talk or see him for 3 years. When he first met me, he had also met someone new at the same time and he thought she was the better choice for him so as a result, I was kicked to the curb while he built a relationship with her. They've since been together for 3 years.
At the time, I felt very betrayed, used, frustrated, heart broken and angry. I was left in that mess alone while he moved on happily with someone else. About 4 months ago, he started texting me again every weekend and asked me to go out and meet up with him. I turned them all down except for the last time (I met him last weekend). He asked me to go out for a harmless drink to catch up so I agreed. (Wise choice?)
During our 30 minute conversation, he told me that he's in a search to validate his love for his girl. He explained to me that he started to text me again because him and his girl are on a temporary break from their relationship, he's the one that asked for the break because he needs to sort out if he really loves her. He wants to start seeing other people to explore possibilities of love else where as a way to help himself figure out if she's the one for him to settle down with. He's questioning if she is the one to be with because he no longer thinks of her like he used to 3 years ago, the spark has disappeared in their relationship. He told me that if he starts to have feelings for someone else then he knows she isn't the one to settle down with.
Anyways, we met up at a lounge, had a drink and chatted for 30 mins. Afterwards, he kept asking to come over so we could talk more. I got the impression that he wanted more than just to talk at (1am in the morning). So I asked him bluntly, "Do you want to have sex with me"? He replied "Yes". I told him I don't sleep around and I would become emotionally attached to him if we slept together. "I am going home alone". So away I went.
I've asked some friends for advice, some of them have told me to utilize this great opportunity to give him a taste of his own medicine. Do you agree? They have recommended that I carefully use what he wants from me as revenge. Is this a wise idea? Use his lust as bait to trap him and seek revenge? We were both very much attracted to each other and truthfully, my feelings were swept under and was never resolved.
What does he want from me? Can I believe anything he's telling me? What would you do in my position? Any help/comments would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.
