Seriously, it was pretty stupid to not clear his history. The first time I didnt even try to look. I was looking for something else and the auto complete took me to some porn site and then I started checking later.
My dilemma is that I'm concerned with the beliefs and values that go along with being interested I that type of porn. I feel like guys who are into that have feelings of inadequacy and fantasize about being with someone who is young, naive and inexperienced in order to feel better about themselves.
That's why this is such a problem for me. Even if I ask him to stop and he does stop; the underlying feelings and desires that drew him to teen porn in the first place are still there. I think couples counseling might be the only solution so that we could address those issues together, but he isn't someone who is very open to counseling and therapy, which is ironic considering my profession.
I also think asking him to go to counseling would be kind of extreme right now and he would feel like I'm pathologizing his behavior or something... Even though I do think it's disturbing
I don't know what to do :(