I need advice from From some Experienced People who have been Hurt. Please!
So I was hoping someone here could help me out. There is a girl who is 24 years old that I used to date back in High school and College. We separated 4 years ago and we just recently reconnected when I moved back home. I am 26.
She just broke up with her prior bf a few months ago who she has a child with (3 years old) and we have been seeing each other for about 3 months now (literally right after she broke up with him). At first it was more of a physical relationship but I find myself now wanting more. She has told me numerous times that she likes how things are and she doesnt want to commit to me. At first she said she did not want to date anyone but recently she said if If I start working with you and I meet some great guy is that going to effect the work environment which made me believe its just me she has no interest in (she will be working for me soon). Now I let this go and moved on as if nothing happened but as time goes on I find myself wanting her more. We still have physical relations but when she starts working for me in a few weeks I am not sure how to handle things.
My question is do I just back off and walk away (so hard to do because I love her and have known her for 12 years). Or is there something I can do that would change her mind about me? Maybe something I can do that would make her want to be with me again..?
I was reading an article and it hit home for me. The main point was this. Men who get sex from a woman generally does not want to be with them because they are already getting sex and they do not need to commit. Woman who get emotional support from a man generally will not want to be with that man either because they are already getting what they need without any commitment.
My point is that since I am always there for her emotionally and help her through everything why would she want to commit to me when she will get nothing more out of it? I know you can say well shes giving you sex so why do you want to be with here after the point I just made but I am the 1% that wants the sex and the emotional commitment.
Can anyone help me here? maybe someone who has experienced something like this?? Please.
PS: I feel like I am setting myself up to get extremely hurt.