Just a quick question? I dont want to be unfair.
Hey all, i would just like to ask you guys for some advice, what is the best way to handle this?
My boyfriend has some jealousy issues and im not sure on how to deal with them. I have been trying my hardest to keep the peace and i am thinking of calling it quits. I just dont feel it will get better and im starting to feel a little suffocated by him. Its not nice, because i do love him and i hate seeing him like this. But its getting too much.
First thing is, i know i am some what good looking and men do hit on me time to time. My boyfriend hates this and i understand why. Sometimes he takes it out on me, which we have spoke about and he promised not to do anymore because i dont ever accept any of the advances i get.. so i dont mean for him to get upset and i always shut other men down.
Well, recently we went to a friends BBQ/surprise birthday. All was good and everyone was having fun. One of my friends is recently going through relationship troubles and was drinking a tad too much. At the end of the night he was saying things that were inappropriate. Asking me why i was with my boyfriend, why i let him treat me the way he does.. I just replied that he had too much to drink and that he had a girlfriend. I ignored him because it was inappropriate.
Well an hour later i asked my boyfriend to pick me up to go home like we had planned, and he said okay. My friend (which may i add knows my boyfriend too and is relatively cool with him) started shouting to me while i was on the phone, 'Dont be stupid, get what you deserve'.. Well, my boyfriend started asking what he was saying and i told him id speak to him when we got home.
When we got home, he was asking what he had said.. Asking me to tell the truth and wouldnt drop it. So i said he was drunk and stupid and saying silly things. I let it on lightly and didnt give full details that werent nessasary, just trying to not cause trouble. He was pissed at me mostly, saying i invite this kind of behaviour.. But the argument was dropped.
Today, 2 week past the incident, he text me while hes at work. Asking for this guys number. I dont have it which i told him and he is freaking out. Saying i need to stick by him and be his girl, saying he is going to his house tonight to teach him a lesson.
I want no part of this drama, its just embarrassing for me, which i have said.
He said it's a guy thing and needs to be done, its just something i dont understand. I understand that he doesnt like the guy now, i would never go hang out with this guy or do anything like that.. But i dont understand why he has to go this far.
I wish id never told him, i wanted to be truthful but i didnt think he would go this far..
Is it right for him to go do this? Should i be angry at the way he is acting? Or is this just what a man should do and it is just a 'guy thing' that i should sit back and accept?
I have had enough of his drama and tantrums like this.. Like i said i am thinking of calling it quits, but im not sure if i would be wrong for doing so over something like this..
Any help would be great and im sorry its so long!!