Hello all, my first post here, & not a nice one
I have been married for 25 years have grown up kids & 2 grand children which u love very much.
Now my wife & I spend more time together our relationship has fallen apart.
We share no common interests. I do a lot of competitive sport enjoy walking my dog, gardening etc but she prefers to sit & watch tv. We are both in our 40's
I am slim though aging ! But love to train & be active to keep in shape.
My wife is so lay back ! Won't do anything & is overweight, I just don't find her attractive so avoid sexual contact .
This annoys her, but it used to be different with me being the one getting constant refusal.
I feel I have let her down by wanting a new life away from her. I have stuck with her for 3 or more years feeling this way.
It is not just physical appearance, her whole life style I feel is not for me.
We row often, she says I should love her for who she is ? But I don't
I do love her, she has been a good wife, I feel now a breakup is not far away.
When we have Mayjor rows I back off & lose confidence & stay only then to get miserable all over again
I find it hard to show any emotions to her, I am I great physical shape but just have holding a big woman
Am I pathetic ? Why has my outlook changed ?