My male best friend acts distant and cold at times and I'm so confused.
I work with a guy who is one of my best friends. We have a lot in common, right down to both of us being New Yorkers transplanted to CA. We work in competing roles, doing the same job. Two years ago, he crossed the dividing line between our two "factions" at work to pursue a friendship with me.We share the same sense of humor, which is often inappropriate. We have confided in each other and have generally been there for each other in work battles. We are both married and any time we socialize it is always with our spouses. The four of us get along great. My friend has in the past jokingly said things like "I'll bet you're great in bed." Which we both laugh off. I've caught him staring at me with a twinkle in his eye. He's constantly giving me a hard time in a playful way. People comment things like "You two should get a room." And truly, there is a lot of chemistry, but both of us are fiercely loyal to our spouses and there has never been even a hint of something physical.we often say we are like brother and sister. The issue is that we will laugh and have fun for 1-2 weeks at a time, then...all of a sudden, he'll become cold aND reserved. Treating me like an acquaintance. I have asked him if he's ok...have I done something. ..and he always says he's busy and it's no big deal. Then eventually after I leave him alone a while, he's back to the old him and we're chatting it up and he's publicly calling me his bestie. What is this craziness? Can we be friends? Have you had issues like this in your relationships with the opposite sex? I adore him and when we are in that "sweet spot" I feel this is one of my closest relationships.
