Attracting a new type of man.
As some of you know, i have been in a horrible abusive relationship for the past couple of years. I broke up with my ex a few months back and i am still going through pain from day to day. Some days i feel great, others all i want to do is to see him.
I have started to see other people, get myself out there and i have had lots of men pursuing me as of lately. I have become more comfortable being by myself and starting to feel not so lonely being alone.
The thing is, i have a problem with the men i have met. All the men so far i have met, been on a date with, started texting and calling etc.. Are all very 'head over heels'.. Coming on too strong and its starting to bug me. I know most women are usually complaining about a man not texting or calling, not wanting to hang out. Well my problem is the opposite. :(
The latest is my friend's cousin. He seemed great, cool, great job, friendly, very good looking and older than me. Which is what i need. I went on a date with him, and it went GREAT. We got along so well, i was so insanely attracted to him when i saw him, and he seemed like he was really enjoying his time with me. The day after, he had to go back to work. He started calling me, which i was happy about. But then he texts me more than needed, he has started to tell me he misses me and that he cares about me. Now i feel scared off and like i am losing interest fast. I told him that i needed him to go slow, not to rush things etc. He said he understood but he hasnt slowed down at all. Ugh.
The same thing happened with the guy before him i went on a date with a few weeks back. I dont know what i am doing so right that these men are liking... But its every guy i meet and it just drives me away.
What is happening here? Why am i suddenly attracting clingy men? It might not sound like a problem as such, but its happening to me everytime i meet someone new and i go from liking him, to being distant with him.
Any advice or opinions?