Girlfriend wants to spend too much time with me
Hello all ! I need you good advice again. I am in a relationship with a girl for several months now. She is really smart, good looking and fun to be around with. I enjoy spending time with her, and i do like her a lot. She is a very sociable person, who has many friends and goes out almost everyday. I am more solitary person, i like to spend time alone, to read, to go to the gym , to play video games, usually activities that are solitary by nature. I don t mind that, i actually enjoy being alone sometimes. The problem is she want to see me too often, at least in my consideration. We work together in the same office, 9 hours per day. We drink our coffee together every day, we spend our breaks together, eat and hang out daily at work. I am with her, and only her, outside during our break for at least an hour and 30 minutes a day, plus all the time we spend with others. After work i usually like to go home ( i live far away from the office) and drink a beer and listen to some music, or read a book, or hit the gym. She want to go out in town, to her place , in parks. I usually do go with her at least 2 times from monday to friday. In the weekend we see eachother at least one time, sometimes even the whole weekend . For the last 3 weeks i saw her daily. For me it's too much. I told her that several times, that i need my alone time. Every time i refuse to go someplace with her she gets upset. It is extremely tiring. One day i had a really bad headache and backache that lasted several days and all i wanted was to go home and stay in bed. She knew i wasn't feeling well and she asked me, after work, if i wanna walk 3 miles with her to someplace, because she was meeting one of her friends and had some free time to spend. I told her i want to go home because my back was really hurting, and she got upset, telling me that i never want to hang out with her. She does not consider seeing me every day at work, as "seeing me". I try to see her as much as i can, but i feel i have no more free time on my hands. I see her constantly. We went on a trip abroad, and are going again for 10 days in 2 weeks. I told her i have no problem going on my own, but i want her to come with me because i like having her next to me, i like her company. She does not seem to care. If i dont want to go for a 2 hour walk in the park, after 3 days of work, she gets upset. If i tell her that the fact that i travel with her in other countries show that i really like her, she says that for her is not enough. I see her so often that i dont know what to talk about to her anymore. We talked about everything and sometimes i just dont know what to say anymore. I explained that i need my time for 4 times till now and she does not seem to appreciate the fact that i really changed for her. I used never to go out , and now i go out 3 or 4 times a week with her, and it is still not enough. I don t mind not going out, i actually like to stay at home. The fact is that i really like her, but what can i do to make her understand that i sometimes feel the need NOT to be with her? My free time is very limited now. I hate coming at home at 11 , going to bed, and waking up to go to work again. I cant stand this and she doesn't seem to understand why, eventough she says she knows i'm a more solitary person. I don t get it. So, do you have any advice? Thanks