How should I confront my mom about her drinking?
My mom started drinking alot when she met my stepdad when I was in 3rd grade. They started drinking every night as soon as they got home and passed out after dinner. When I was teenager I took advantage of the fact that I could basically do whatever I wanted after 7pm every night and started getting into trouble.
When I was 15 my mom finally started to care a little bit and act like a parent, but being the bitchy teenager that I was, I threw everything back in her face and told her exactly what I thought about her parenting style and we started arguing and she got a little physical with me. (I'm telling you this for a reason, I promise). Shortly after that her and my stepdad got divorced and she eventually slowed down with the drinking.
Right before I moved out her and my stepdad got back together and it started up again. I didn't realize how bad things were until she started bringing her vodka to family functions like my nieces birthday party. I mean, who gets drunk at 2 in the afternoon at a one year olds birthday party? I have a 4 year old daughter and my mom is always offering to babysit or let her stay the night, but I just don't trust her enough to let my daughter spend more than 30 minutes alone with her. It's getting really out of hand. I barely ever see her sober anymore, and I'm worried about her and just frustrated with the whole situation. Is there anything I can do? I'm kind of afraid to say anything to her because of what happened when I was 15. I don't want anything like that happening again. She's kind of a drama queen and always wants people to feel bad for her, and I'm afraid I'm going to lose my cool. Any suggestions or advice?