God this is embarrassing.
I'm sure there have been several thousand more embarrassing topics on these forums, but as far as I'm concerned, this is an embarrassing thing to write.
I've known this girl for four years, and we've been great friends for about a year.(Check out my profile for the pre-now situation in more detail). I asked her out last tuesday, but we don't umm... do anything. It seems like we're still "just friends".
I've lost a g/f before because of this. Going out, wasn't much point in going out because we were both shy and it didn't feel right.
I really want to get close to this girl; she means a lot to me. So many things conflicting in my mind at the moment. Surely if she's going out with me, she wants to get a bit close... Surely as the bloke I should be the one... starting if you know what I mean.
This all makes sense, but we're both really really shy and have never had this sort of relationship before. I can tell it's what we both want, but just don't know how to go about you know... the whole touchy thing.
Would mentioning it in a text be a good idea? Talking about it? Going straight in there?
Any thoughts/comments greatly appreciated.
Wow, I never had so much faith in a forum ;-)
Lighton:
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Tickle her is a start. How old are you both?
Wha? Ba? Der wer ger? Huh? Tickle her? Did you even read my post about that sort of thing feeling out of place because of our personalities and status? I thought not. Or maybe I should've been clearer. I'm 15. lol.
Swoon:
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define what you meanby touching, have you even kissed her, or anyone else?
1.) Touching being anything other than talking. 2.) See above. Hehe.
bohemiandonut:
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Umm, I think "discussing" you first intimate moments would kind of take the fun out of it...
I totally agree. However, I think it might be a good idea to... vaguely mention it so it doesn't seem completely random at first. Thanks for your input.
Laguna:
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Just go for it. STOP THINKING. This is why your shy. You over-think.
Like others on this thread, I'm not sure about not thinking because if I did that various bodily functions would shut down, eg. breathing. Nah, just kidding, I know exactly what you mean here. You're right about thinking/shyness... I do think. A lot. And more. But when you're like me it's difficult to suddenly stop without the aid of a baseball bat.
K3vMySt3r: Thanks for the advice.
PKsEvolution: Wow, that's the best, most clear, concise response I've ever seen. I can't thank you enough for your time & kindness!
Thankyou especially for 4.5, 5 and 5.5, I feel they especially apply to my (or our...) current situation. You're right, I need to think... but get it over. Go with the flow. And if there isn't a flow then bloody well create one!
4.5 iv... That's so true. When you're best friends with somebody like this, an embarrassing moment will just seem like a drop in the ocean.
I'll be trying not to overthink in the future, and try and get on with it. If she wants to go out with me, which she does, she wants to be with me, then she wants to touch me too. I'm just a shy bastard who needs to get used to it all. And so does she.
Thanks so much for al your time and advice!