Need Help Processing Her Motive of contacting me after she broke my heart.
I came across this forum due to being broken hearted by the hands of what I thought was someone to love. Here is the scenario. Hope i can get some advice.
I was in a whatevership with a girl, 28, and I am 38. We both have children the same age, 10. We progressed in this relationship with very good vibes. Became intimate often after 1 month. As this progressed she never really would express her feelings verbally. However, her actions said she cared about me. She had a friend come out of a relationship and I could tell she giving her a lot of attention in lew of me. No problem, but then out of the blue she says she not being fair to me by not giving me 100%. I said my piece and told her good luck in life.
I started NO CONTACT from that point on. Legit no contact. I was proud of myself as we have touched on this before and of course I would cave in cause I didn't want to lose her. So, fast forward to day 21 of this hard no contact and this happens.
She is not one to talk about her feelings. So her first message to me, day 21, was she really wanted the children to get together and play sometime, but the children go to the same school and play with each other all the time. My question is could she possibly just be using this " playdate" to get closer to me since I have not been contacting her?
That is only correspondence and I told her sure that would be fine. I just don't want to be a safety net. Would love her to just tell me she has been silly and would like to make us work. Just hope I know.
She has still not contacted me since this initial contact at day 21. I started NO contact again and it is day 20 right now.
I just know in my heart that I have poured my heart out and she knows how i feel. I have not had a lot of reciprocation on her end. I have been a little needy, and I say that loosely when we have had the Dtr and she wanted to keep me around. I have not done that this time, so maybe it has made her think. She told me at break up that she didn't know the future, but I was what she was looking for, but she wished I had came along later. She just got out of a long term, 2 year, relationship. I swear I was nothing but sweet. She even called me the most amazing man she has ever been involved with. I feel non delusional in that she really has feelings for me, but at 28 she just wasnt ready. I really care about her, but I am trying like crazy and proud that I have regained some dignity by not contacting her. I have even unfollowed her on Facebook, and not looked at her profile one time. I swear. Is there any hope for a change of heart. Just be nice for my hope she will complete a good love story by making it known she has had a change of heart. Living on a prayer.
Thanks for any input or advice.