Just had my heart broken :(
Wow it's been forever since I've been on here. I mean wow my screen name says Abercrombie and I don't think I've shopped there in a good 5 years...... Anyway here's my sitch:
My bf and I are both 26 and were dating for 11 months. Things were great. I mean great. We would occassionally get into little tiffs here and there but they were always super minor and far between. All the sudden last week he got super distant to where I could tell something was wrong and then POOF Friday he breaks up with me. It literally hit me like a ton of bricks. My question is why? All he told me was that for some reason he wasn't as happy as he feels he should be but he doesn't know why he isn't happy and that he always said he would never get married or anything because he hates being tied down. But then he met me and he said that if he was ever going to be able to do a long term relationship it would be with someone like me but that in the end he thinks he's just too selfish.
My question is where do I go from here? The only contact weve had was an email sent 3 days after the break up regarding the cancelling of a trip we were supposed to be taking together in a couple weeks and asking if I was doing ok. All my male friends said don't respond but since there was the vacation business to take care of I did. I didn't want to come across like a bitch or immature. I just shortly said that I had already cancelled the trip and not much else. At the end I told him not to email me anymore since that business was taken care of. That if he wants to talk he can call me like I deserve. That was 2 days ago.
I'm just trying to find some insight into whether this situation is salvagable. My friends all say that he may just be freaking out. We've been to a lot of wedding and stuff recently. He only had a HS gf that he dated for like 2 years. Other than that he's been single for roughly 4 years before me. He was crying when he broke it off with me so I know he cares. Do I just lay low for a while and hope he realizes he's an idiot? I mean I know that is the best thing for me in the long run since I don't know if he will ever come back but I guess I'm just asking is there hope? I mean I understand some people prefer to be unhinged but I'm the kind of girl that doesn't tell their man what to do. He pretty much got to do whatever he wanted and rightfully so. So is there ever a chance of someone overcoming that because they love another person so much? Or is it pretty much helpless?