Keeping Men Happy (men's and women's roles)
I had spent several years alone and even when I used to live with someone I had to take care of things or they weren't getting done...from taking out the trash to mowing the lawn. For a long time I knew I had to take care of things and I had no help, so I am pretty self reliant and am used to doing everything myself.
I now look back and even in my current situation this seems to be causing me trouble. Mr. 13 years felt I didn't need him. Hell, I needed him but he escaped into his fantasy world (books or online gaming) and wasn't dealing with real life.
I guess we need to leave certain things for the men to do? My current beau works Saturdays so I will bring in wood to get through the night so he doesn't have to do it after a full day of work while I have been home.
And hell, I need the exercise. Do I need to knock this off? I am trying to be considerate and do him a favor but I think it may be causing a problem. This is only one task I am using as an example as there are others.
Guys: Do we need to leave certain things for you to do? Is that really that important? Do you need certain tasks to be yours to be and feel like the man?
Gals: Have you had the same experience?
Part of me likes to help out and be capable but not at the risk of losing him.
I just want to know that I'm not crazy.
Thanks,
W