Feeling too threatened when flirting with girls.
Everytime I find myself flirting with girls, I feel like I'm being tested. I HATE this feeling. The thing that bothers me the most in my life, are tests. I really can't STAND them.
Now, this constant feeling of being tested, and having this feeling of "You're being tested, do your best" is KILLING me.
Furthermore, I lack the ability of being the "Bad Guy". The sentence "Good Guys finish Last" couldn't be more true. When flirting with girls, while being the nice guy, I get the feeling that the girl is thinking to herself: "SHUT THE **** UP. I COULDN'T CARE LESS. B-O-R-I-N-G" and it's not that I talk nonsense or silly things.. really not. It's just, I'm usually talking about Logical things. Interesting things. Which, ofcourse, is a Hugh attraction killer. Women want men to reach their FEELINGS, not their LOGIC.
The last time I dated someone, my feelings turned out to be true. We had a good date.. I'd rate this date as Worth a 2nd date. Guess what? She didn't "FEEL" anything, so she said it "WON'T WORK". This girl dated me ONE time, and already decided she know me. I failed the test, even though we MIGHT be a great couple. Who knows?
I really think I could be an awesome partner. Really. My main weakness is getting INTO the relationship.
Recently I tried working on it, but when trying to talk about things that will give the girl a feeling of "wow.. I wanna know more about this guy." I'm actually not being myself, and act weird and VERY uncomfortable with myself. In that state my self confidence is halved.
I would be more than happy to get some suggestions of how I could change this situation. It feels just unfair that a guy like me, who's kind, smart, loving, emotional, good looking, friendly etc' couldn't attract girls because of bad flirting skills, while "inferior" or "same level as me" guys catch girls often.
Thanks in advance!