do I have reason to be mad about this?
My ex and I have had a lot of problems. We were taking space, trying to work them out. By taking space, I meant we hadn't broken up yet.
Last Friday night was Halloween, which was my favorite holiday. We had had plans for a while to spend it together. Well, he actually didn't even want to go out. The night got all screwed up because he invited his friend, and that friend brought along a bunch of guys, and we ended up staying at this bar that I did not want to stay at. I was afraid we'd get stuck there, so early in the night, I confirmed with my bf that we were NOT going to be staying there. He said no, we'd leave after 1-2 drinks.
Well, 1-2 drinks stretched into several more. My bf barely paid any attention to me. After 3 hours of staying there I was ready to go. My bf basically said he wanted to stay with his friends. I was upset. All the way home, I was texting him. I just wanted an explanation for why he was ditching me. He barely responded. I sat home and cried til about 2am.
THe next day, I ended it (not just for this-there are other reasons. We're just at diff stages in life. He doesn't have a car or even his own room. He lives in a house w/ a bunch of people.) As I was giving him his things back, we talked about being friends... I was even thinking, maybe sometime in the future, once we both had our s*** together, we could get back together.
At one point, he tells me he "almost f'd a random chick" at the bar the night before, after I left. I assumed he meant that, he'd been so mad at me, he was tempted to step out on me. But he tried to make it a compliment by saying, see, that's what being with you has taught me, not to do that.
I was kind of stunned.
It's taken a few days for it to sink in, that I'm totally hurt by this.
I don't care how mad I've ever gotten at him, I've never even been tempted to cheat on him, and he would've been cheating, because we hadn't broken up yet.
I don't know why he'd a) even consider "almost f'ing a random chick" and b) why would he tell me this?
We had a big blow up over email about it. He called me crazy and I told him to grow up. I just wanted him to know I'm hurt. I can't be friends with him after this.
What do you think? Am I justified in being mad? I feel totally livid about the whole thing.
