Whenever there is a problem in our relationship my guy completely shuts me out.
If e.g. I do something to upset him, instead of talking to me about it he gives me the silent treatment. I always give him his time alone thinking after a while he will be ready to talk, but he never does. He continues to ignore me and bites my head off if I even suggest that we need to talk about this.
If I ask him what is wrong he says “I don’t want to talk about it right now” so I say “ok, well when you’re ready, later” and he says “I don’t want to talk about it later, either”.
Then he pretends nothing happened. I don't bother bringing it up again because I know it is going to get me nowhere. ¾ of the time I don't even know what it is I've done because he won’t talk to me, then he gets mad if I don't apologise!
He makes me feel like everything bad in our relationship is my fault. If HE does something to upset ME and I let him know I'm hurt, rather than try and talk it through with me he tells me if I am going to be "cranky" all day then he doesn't want to be around me. I feel like I have to be this robot that's only ever happy and smiling and laughing.
The worst thing about this is if I say to him "you never want to talk about anything" he seems to be shocked, insulted and COMPLETELY denies it.
I have even heard "if you need to talk, go to your sister or best friend, not to him" as advice from other men. They tell me men don’t want to “talk about it. We just want to be left alone”. Call me crazy but I NEED to be able to talk things out with my partner.
I would never suggest couple's counseling - he thinks any sort of counseling is for "crazy people". I'm not sure what else to do.