Please can i have some advice on breakup
Hi there
I am in the need of some advice from men who have been in a few relationships and from women too. I need a bit of guidance at the moment as I am in severe heartbreak. I will be as honest as I can in the hopes that you guys and girls can please give me hope or guidance.
I have recently been dumped by my girlfriend who I was seeing for 3 years. Over the last year we lived together in a lovely house. We were happy and madly in love with eachother.
3 months ago she was offered a new job. The job required her to go away for 3 months on training. I offered her my support and stayed at home looking after the house. When she returned from these trips she would be in a really bad mood. She told me that she was having so much fun and realised there was more to life than being at home with me. To cut it a bit shorter she basically told me she was unhappy in our relationship and that she doesnt love me anymore.
I took it like a man and moved out. A few weeks later a guy shes been seeing acidentally mails our old shared account at what I would call heartbreakingly horrific details of what he was going to do with her when she got back. I was DEVASTATED. I cried for 5 days and didnt sleep, drink or eat. I started being obsessive and phoning her hundreds of times and being a complete jerk! I was emailing her and phoning her and she told me to get over it because she didnt want to be with me anymore..
Anyway... I have since then calmed down and had a lot of time to think. I have improved myself for personal reasons and done everything people recommend Gym, Sunbeds, Good movies, Chatting up girls but I can't get her out of my head. I have been in a few relationships before but this is the woman I love and this is the woman I wanted to marry. I want her back guys and I am so sick of people telling me to get over it and move on. People say follow your heart and she is the way my heart wants to go.
I have spoken to her a week ago and she told me this guy was just a "Couple of dates" as she doesnt want a relationship just yet. I can't believe she started seeing this guy litterally days after I moved out. She says she wants to keep seeing him but doesnt see what the big deal is.
I have basically started No contact again and told her that I want her to be happy and whats best for her and she tells me she wants me to still be a part of her life. She has already started texting me and emailing me and asking how i am doing and saying things like "you are looking really good! You have to agree we are better off without eachother" and "I heard you were chatting up women in a bar last week! Good for you!". I have ignored her text and am backing off big time as I realised I did a stupid mistake by being the weak sobbing ex. I know its not attractive but need guidance on what to do from now on and if there is a chance of winning her back..
Please dont just tell me to move on, because this is the woman I love with all my heart. I know she wants me in her life but shes going throigh some mad phase i think at the moment. Also this guy shes dating is messing with my head. As a man i have all these horrible visions in my head.
As I said I have calmed down now and am in a clear frame of mind and am not delerious anymore.
What shall I do?
Thanks in advance!