i dont know what to make of this!
hi guys, this is my first ever post on this forum so i don't know what to expect ! I am hoping that as outside observers to my situation you'll be able to give me objective advice... here goes
I met a guy about two months ago at university, i'm an undergrad and he's a post so there's about 5 years between us. It was totally platonic at first, he's so intelligent and driven, with a good sense of humour. Perfect gentleman too, the conversation is great and we are really comfortable around eachother.
It's just that.. basically he told me he was in a relationship, he was with this girl for 9 months until the poor girl died in a car crash, god rest her soul. This happened in march this year, and i met him in May.
We spend quite a bit of time with eachother, not a day goes by without him checking up on me or chat or arrange plans to meet up. There is a definite chemistry between us, he flirts with me a lot and i can't lie i flirt right back.
but umm.... his girlfriend, who he said he loved so much he intended to marry her, only died a few months ago...
he doesn't talk about her a lot, he's probably only ever mentioned her 3 times. Is our friendship basically his way of getting over her ? which in turn means he probably is not romantically interested in me, no matter how much he flirts. See even as I'm writing this i know how stupid it sounds lol but I really do enjoy his company a lot and the more time i spend with him the more i like him.
should I cut him off before i get too attached, or is there a shred of possibility between us ..that something may happen in future ?
i feel silly writing this, go easy on me lol
