Parents against staying over at girlfriend's
Hello All,
I am running into a bit of a problem. I have been in a relationship with a girl for about 8 months and we both love each other very much. She lives 40 minutes away from me and I usually go see her once a week. I end up driving back roads in the dark and getting home at 11pm. I don't like this because I tend to get very drowsy behind the wheel. Not to mention the chance of hitting deer in the road. We both would like it if I stayed the night and drove home in the morning/afternoon. We are both adults. Me 18 and her almost 19. We both live at home and our parents support us. Her parents are completely fine if I spend the night and are actually more comfortable with the idea since I'm not driving in the dark. My parents, however, feel I should not stay the night. My mom seems to be fine with it but doesn't want to go against my dad's feelings.
He feels that if I spend the night at her house. We will have sex, regardless of if her parents are there or not. Which we won't. Mom seems to not care at all and always says, "be careful, use protection" when I go over. She actually gave me some leash when I became a legal adult. I am sexually active and have been for about a month, which they are not aware of. I always wear a condom and she is on the birth control shot because we are both terrified of having children.
Regardless of this, I do feel safer spending the night. When I try to sit my parents down to have an adult conversation about it, my mom always sides with my dad and my dad avoids the subject at all costs. When I finally got him to talk about it he said no because we will have sex and that I have worked too hard to screw it up for some girl. My life has been non stop school and I already have my associates degree. I feel I am a responsible adult who can make his own decisions, he thinks differently. There is not much I can do because he pays for the car, gas, school, and well housing and food. Any advise?
Thanks.