Thanks for your advise guys, when I broke up in the first relationship I did think of myself eventually I started to get my confidence back then I met the second girl. At the time this girl now became recovery, everything I went through in the break up with the first relationship didn't really matter, as in i wasn't wondering why I got cheated, or what I did wrong I was just happy I found someone new, then she does the same thing to me and that's where I am now.
I'm not to sure if I'm using these relationships as reason for letting myself go but getting to the point when you can look at people when they speak to you is the lowest point in my life, I hope I can come back on here later this year or next year and say all my confidence is back and I'm happy as ever. The second girl is still in my life we talk now and then, I have feelings for her and I hate seeing she's not doing well, which she's not at the moment because having some health problems and her boyfriend leaving her. I don't want to lose her completely especially now but that's probley what I have to do to get myself back on track. Thanks for your help guys