I finally did it, I broke up with the guy I liked, any opinions on his reactions?
Okay, so I did it! I finally told this guy that I have been casually dating for about 2 months that I have been super stressed and busy this summer and don't think it's best that we continue dating but just remain friends and maybe things can be different in the future. He has told me time and time again he wasn't ready for a relationship and I am so I felt this was a necessary move.
His reaction was one of being confused and caught off guard. He said he didn't know what to think and then proceeded to ask what I was stressed about. I told him and then he asked if I stressed him out and I said a bit with the LD but that I mostly needed to just focus on myself. He said "Well, idk, i guess im in kind of a confusing time right now. Long distance isnt very good for me and relationships, especially with how busy i am. (why did he make it about himself?) There is a girl here who wants to date me, and i like her too, but have been holding off, its just kinda strange how everything is unfolding and i feel like this came outta nowhere." I think the girl was a ploy to make me change my mind personally, lol. I asked if he wasn't dating her just because of me and he said "yeah i dont know, just didnt feel right with everything that we had going" Finally I told him it wasn't an easy decision and to go ahead and date the other girl because I'm not available right now and he just said "alright, if this is what you think is best..."Guys, any thoughts on his reactions? The goal is to make him realize that I’m not so easily available and to want me more because now he has to work for me. Do you think this is what he’s feeling? I’m just afraid he might take the opposite route and just try and forget about me.. even though I will be in his life as a good friend.
I'm not trying to play games btw, I really do feel that this was an absolutely necessary move on my part. The way I see it is, if I would have continued giving him everything a gf would with no commitment on his part.. things would have eventually ended badly for me but this way I gain a bit more control and at least have a chance of things working out.
What does everyone think?