Engaged and don't know what to do to keep it together
I'm engaged to a beautiful woman and it's been about a month now since our engagement.
She hasn't posted any photos of the ring on any of her social networks nor has she called or texted anyone the news. I'm pretty sad about it, knowing any other woman would be excited and sharing the news with everyone. I've posted it on my social networks the second she said yes.
Our situation isn't easy. I live in San Diego and she lives in San Jose. She wants to move out here but she has a 5-year old autistic boy and she was never married to the father.
She told the boy's father, Tom, that she plans to move to San Diego with their son. Of course he isn't happy and then serves her with court papers for custody and for the court to forbid her from leaving northern California.
They are asked to go to mediation soon, to see if they can discuss and solve any issues to avoid court.
Honestly, from what it sounds like, the father may win. He doesn't pay for child support, only food. He BSed on his declaration saying he provided 100% for his son. He refuses to buy him pajamas as requested by the mother, so I ended up buying him five new pairs of pjs.
Now, I get a text from her this morning saying she doesn't see herself moving out to San Diego. She wants her son to see his father.
I've been so lost in thought about what to do. Her mother asked if I was willing to move out there to northern California. I told her if I can find a job that pays what I get now and more. I'm a senior digital designer for a Fortune 500 company that doesn't have an office in Northern California, but in other countries.
Right now we're not on speaking terms, she wanted her space and time to think about everything.
I don't know what to do. I hate this feeling of not knowing what she is thinking.