How to get over this guy? Am I interpreting his behavior correctly?
I'm 27y/o, in grad school, and recently became attracted to a guy several weeks ago who is also in the same school. We've known each other since January since we're in an extracurricular activity together, but since I started spending more time with him socially in March, I realized how fun he is and how much I like him. While most of the other guys I know are a bit more inhibited, this guy is so exciting and brings out a different side of me. I am also really physically attracted to him. When we see each other, especially in a bar or club, we flirt a lot (and just with each other, not necessarily with other people). Even my friend keeps asking me if we like each other. We've had dinner together, and he's asked me to come along when he goes out with his friends. We've talked on the phone, too, and had some good conversations.
One barrier I have to admit, though, is it sometimes can be awkward between us if it's just the two of us alone and not flirting in a bar (I guess the atmosphere of a bar at least helps me feel less inhibited?). I think I'm sometimes a bit nervous around him, and I wonder if he is around me, too. But still, I am hopeful that if we spend more time together, we can get over that stage and open up to each other more.
Anyway, my problem is, despite all of the above, we are still not a "couple." He keeps talking about doing dinner and wanting to hang out more with me, but even though he gives me a lot of attention when we happen to see each other, he doesn't initiate going out with me all that much. Perhaps he's just busy with school work, he'd rather hang out with his other friends, he's just not that into me, or all of the above. I'm guessing that he feels attracted to me (he calls me "sexy and fun"), enjoys flirting with me, and likes the attention that I give him but doesn't want any type of relationship and doesn't want to pursue this further. Also, I will be graduating soon and moving away while he is staying behind to finish up schoolwork since he's in a different year, so perhaps it's possible that he doesn't want to get to know me better b/c he already knows that a relationship isn't possible (although I would think that if a guy likes a girl, he'll do almost anything to be with her regardless of the circumstances).
Bottom line is I am still really attracted to this guy and still hopeful that he likes me, and I find myself even planning my social life around him, trying to find any opportunity to spend with him. I feel like I just need to get over him, but how? And my other question is, do you all think that I am right in interpreting his behavior? Is he flirting b/c he may be attracted to me but doesn't want anything more b/c a) I'm moving away, and b) he doesn't like me enough to take our relationship more seriously?
