Need help from a guy's point of view...please...
I am in a relationship for 4 years now and everything was great until end of February this year. My bf and I are living together after 1 year we got together because we are living out of our countries for work reasons.
2 months ago he came home and started texting. From that day onward, it became non-stop. It was a girl from his workplace, a management trainee that was put under his care to teach her basic daily task at work. He told me there was nothing to worry about and said clearly that they are just like brother and sister. I believed it for a week but my suspicion grew. What is the reason that a girl could text a guy everyday and telling him details about her daily life, problems and personal feelings about her life other than work related issues? Of course I knew that she like him but he did not believed it until she cried to him one day when I am working out of the country, telling him her love problems about another person and her confused feelings for my bf. But even then, they still text every single day without fail. I told him how i felt, argued (minor and majorly), told him I want it to stop but he declared that nothing is going on between them, telling me that she's an innocent girl, felt bad of what she did that made me hurt so bad. He told me that she's the only good friend that he have and trust in this foreign country as I too know that he only have a few selection of friends. He could not let go of that friendship which made me think more, if it will develop into the scenario that I do not want to happen. (I read through his messages and found sentences like "I miss disturbing you" and "I am giving you attention and love") If a stranger read through their conversation, it seems that they are dating. I swear.
He declared his love to me, tell me to trust him, begging me to not leave him, text lesser or not at all when I'm around...but started little lies or stop telling me that he is meeting her (he used to ask me if it is okay), cried to me and telling me if I found someone better, he is willing to let go. (for girls, it hurts when a guy tells you to find someone better) As a girl, I don't get his actions at all. Can anyone tell me what is going on....and should I continue this relationship...