Feeling Blue.......need a clue haha but seriously I need some advice.
First off I just wanted to say thank you for any advice given.
I have been with my current gf for 2 years so far. A few months ago my girl friend spent two weeks at my house in which she meet my parents. It turned out great they really loved her as she is an amazing person. However when ever we talk about me meeting her parents or her brother or any of her family members, she seems a bit distant about it. She always tells me that she would rather have me meet her parents when she is no longer living with them. It makes me feel sort of hidden, like she wants it to be a secret from her family. I've meet her friends, we get along really well, actually one of her friends is a good friend of mine now. It really bothers me because I have a friend who is also in this same situation but he has been in it for over 6 years. He has meet her brother, aunt and friends, but her parents do not know he exists. I can tell it hurts him because of what he has to go through just to hide their relationship. I don't feel its fair. I love her. but I do not want our relationship to stay hidden for years on end. It would make me feel like we have not progressed at all. if it help she is Vietnamese and I am African American / Korean. I know its difficult having your parents accept another ethnicity out side of your race to date your daughter, as my father had a hard time getting my mothers parents to accept him, but is it really that bad to want to keep the relationship hidden? Has anyone else been in this or is currently in my situation?