Cant move past my girlfriends past!Please help!
I have been with my girlfriend for a lil over 2years. With that said, let me cut to the chase. I have a problem with her past. She has remained "friends" with most of her sexual partners from before we met. This really upsets me and bothers me til my stomach is in knots. She also keeps photo albums and tons of other pictures in a duffel hw and between the two, there are a lot of pics of her ex's. Some are not bad and some are of them in bed together, some are of them kissing .(not nude thank god) but it still bothers me she has to keep them around. She was molested when she was a kid and pretty much raised by grandparents, mom was seldom there and dad was an addict for years and never there. She has also told me that it shouldn't bother me and that she sleeps with most of her friends before me. She's even had a four way with her supposed best friends. When I tell her that this bothers me it ends up in a huge shit storm. She's also an only child and has a 12 year old son that I also love. His dad is also in his 30's and don't have a car or pay any type of child support. This is another issue, he sees his child maybe 2-3 days a month for about 8hours on those days yet she talks and txts him regularly and its not about the child they share. In fact the boy is never really brought up. I have explained to her how that's not cool at all and she shouldn't be talking to him unless its about their son, she argues and fights me about it. He was commenting on her Facebook page about sex and other immature crap alike and I told her I didn't like that so she had him block me instead of her blocking him.(hate Facebook)
So all of this stuff is kinda in a nutshell but it really hurts more with me than for me, I have asked her to put that behind her and not let it cloud our present or future yet it always goes back to me being a control freak or not letting her be herself. She has been raped 3times and has ptsd from those events. I feel like she used sex to make friends and don't think that is healthy. When she had her 4 way experience she was seeing some guy and he introduced her to another guy and girl at a party and well, you know. Now she claims to be their best friends and this happened a few short months before we met. I have taken her son under my wing and pretty Mich babysitter at least 3 nights a week, I have also taught this guy how to ride a bike(almost cried). I really don't know if I'm being irrational or controlling, I'm only being how I know how...please, someone, anyone help. I take this matter very serious.