Dating anxieties/insecurities - Learning how to chill out!
Hi everyone!
I haven't posted on here for quite some time but I'm in need of yet more advice from you lovely people.
I recently split up with my ex boyfriend. However (I'm boiling this down to fate!) I have started talking/seeing someone. He is an awesome guy. He's very funny, we have a lot in common and when we are together and talking, everything feels so natural. I'm just taking it a day at a time because I don't want to rush into anything.
But...
I'm driving myself mad with insecurities. It doesn't help that he's very insecure about himself so I'm constantly having to reassure him that everything is fine. With me, I keep flipping back to the past and thinking that I'm going to be ignored, I'm going to be cheated on...you get my drift. I sometimes don't know how to react to certain situations. He's different to my ex boyfriends in that we don't talk every single waking moment of the day. It's usually in the evenings so we have plenty to talk about and we never confirm plans on the day, if something is planned, it is planned...period.
Yesterday, he asked if I was free in the evening and that he really wanted to see me. I said that's fine. I haven't heard anything from him today as I know he's busy and I'm driving myself insane thinking to myself...should I message him, shouldn't I message him, shall I wait for him to contact me.
I honestly do need to get a grip. Mum has told me 'go with the flow' which is much easier said than done.
Does any body suffer from these kind of episodes. I know I need to chill, I'm just finding it a little hard at the moment! Any words of advice would be greatly appreciated.
mindy x
