I have been dating my current gf for almost 9 months now and so far she's the best girl to ever come along. I am 26 yr old male btw. And by "best" girl I'm starting to wonder what that really means. I guess I want a little advice.
This girl is sweet, beautiful, has a great body, doesn't argue (or bitch), does my dishes after I cook her dinner, is pleased by just watching TV all night in my arms, doesn't demand anything, and is very low maintenance. Those are the upsides.
(this next part is going to sound like I'm the girl in the relationship, which I have been called before...lol so I'm sensitive...sue me.)
BUT she has a hard time showing emotions, verbally or physically. I on the other hand am the opposite. She isn't very touchy-feely, seemingly has almost no sex drive(I always initiate, then it's great), doesn't ever compliment me, or do anything to go out of her way for me emotionally or physically, like back rubs, little notes, etc. Romantic I don't think exists in her vocabulary. I on the other hand am the opposite. I have been going out of my way for her since day one, candlelit back massages, foot rubs, flowers, love notes, all the romantic stuff (not obsessively). Yet she doesn't really seem to care. When I approach her about this kinda thing she says "she doesn't ask for it, and doesn't really need it" basically. And I say well you're not supposed to ask for it...I do it because I care for you and I want to make you happy. But I guess it's just not a big deal to her...
I guess I'll try to sum this up. I am crazy in love with her, all I want is for her to love me the way I love her. She has told me she loved me once but was a little intoxicated when she did (lol). I want her to trust me and show me that she wants me to be a part of her life.
4 months before we got together she had just got out of the longest on/off relationship of her life with the guy that took her v card. They were together almost 4 years. She said she was so messed up when they broke up, that she had to get on meds because she wouldn't eat or sleep for 2 weeks..even though he was cheating on her the last year and she knew it. She told me when we got together she wasn't going to get attached because of her past relationship, but saw that I was a catch and stayed with me...but it's been like pulling teeth the whole way for me to get her to open up as much as she has. It's been almost 9 months...are these symptoms she's going through still because of her past relationship? Is it not enough time? How after all these months of me proving myself to her can she still not open up to me?? I love her to death and want to be with her, but sometimes it hurts being with her not REALLY knowing what's going through her head.
Have any of you girls had your walls up this long?? Should I stick with it? Or is this just the "way" she is?