Hey there everyone. I have not been on here in a while...I apologize. Please read this...
Two months ago I broke up with a boyfriend of mine. We dated for 4 months, but were friends for over 6 years.
He was good to me but made three BIG mistakes....
One; He beat up my ex roommate (he deserved it, he looked through my pics on the computer and stole my panties) but, it was against my wishes. I simply asked him to allow me to handle the situation.
Two; He has sex with me, while holding the condom in his hand, never putting it on, and made me believe he had one on. (Thank God for the Plan B pill.)
Three; He ****ed my in the ass while I was sleeping. (I felt exceptionally violated and he knew of my dark past.)
(He also never gave me any space and could not go a day without me when we were together. It was cute at first....)
So, I broke it off with him. I had a tiny shred of hope that maybe I would be able to forgive him and we could continue our friendship sometime down the road.
Well, he was devastated. He began drinking every night, loosing his temper with everyone, sleeping around, and even relapsed and did coke again after years of being clean.
He began texting me everyday saying he hated himself, was un-loveable, I was the one, life meant nothing without me, I was his everything, he would give everything up for me....you get the picture...
He has a loving family and close friends, but he keeps disappointing them with what he is doing.
Anyways, he came to my window one night at 4 am. I was asleep and had taken some sleeping pills so did not wake up. He called me 14 times that night.
A couple days later I saw him, and took him to see my horse and try and talk some sense into him since here were plenty of people around and I knew I was safe there...things went ok, accept him crying and begging for me back. I told him to go home. When I got home, he was at my house....and so began the high speed chase. I kept trying to get away and he kept calling...I told him to get off my tail and go home....after about 15 min of this, I peeled out in someones driveway (girls gotta do, what a girls gotta do) and he got off my tail...
About a months later (still getting texts all the time) he shows up at my house at 4 am again...I was asleep in another room and was sick, and so was OUT. He snuck in through my dog door and came into the room I was in. I was naked and he just grabbed me and began crying and asking me not to shoot him. He was lucky that my gun was in the other room and not at my side like it was every other damn night.
He wouldn't let me go and just kept telling me how much he loved me, and needed me, and such....
I ended up calling his parents to come pick him up, cause I hate to get cops involved....
I keep telling him that this is just an obsession and 'out of sight, out of mind' is the only way to get over me.
What the hell do I do just short of a restraining order?!?! I feel so bad since he was a friend of mine for so long. We just wont work being together anymore....
Any advice....??! PLEASE!!!
