Hi all. My first post. :)
So the main issue is the gf is sending naked pics of herself to some random online guy, and even emails him audio clips of her jerking herself off.
So little back story:
I have been with the gf for about 4 years, and we have lived together for about 3 years. We have had a great relationship, and we both greatly enjoy each other's company...or so I thought.
Slowly I have gained some weight, and so has she. As a result, I have become less active. Maybe 1-2 times a week if that as it gets exhausting. I have been losing weight,and so has she but she has been losing at a snail's pace. I lose perhaps a few lbs a week.
Last year I noticed she started acting a bit mysterious on her smart phone. Every time she would type something, she would point the phone away from me. This went on for a few weeks. I don't care if she types to people, but to have to turn the phone away makes one wonder.
I left it alone. One day I had to take a pic with her phone because mine was charging, and when I went to look at the pic, I noticed she had topless pics of herself in the phone. Umm...I have never seen these. I asked her about the pics, and she tells me she forgot to send those pics to me. Yeah okay. One day I went into the room, and she sprang from under the blanket as if she was talking to someone or doing something to herself. I asked her what she was looking for, and the typical answer of nothing was given.
At this point, I was really suspicious. While she was sleeping I decided to go through her phone. Sure enough she has been chatting with some guy, actually 2 guys and both have been exchanging pics with her. They send her pics of themselves and their privates. I even found emails of audio clips of herself as if she is jerking herself off that she sent to one of the guys. These guys routinely tell her dirty things via this 3rd party chat program, but it seams she doesn't chat much dirty things to them. They do have long drawn out convos about random things, too.
This has been going on with the 2 same guys about a year now. Not so much with one of them, but a lot with the other one. I left it alone to see how it fans out, and it just continues to move forward.
The interesting thing is that she wants to have a life with me. Just the other day we were discussing finances and the possibilities of affording a child and how she would like to get married someday. So it seams she wants to be in the long run with me.
Now, I know I shouldn't have gone through her phone. I'll probably get slammed for that, but can you blame me for continuously seeing suspicious things, and unconfirmed I was right?
Ever since I have discovered these things, my sex drive has gotten even lower. Sometimes we go a few weeks without doing it. It's like all I can think of is what she is doing behind my back. It's gotten so bad that i even find myself tracking the location of her phone when she tells me she has to be somewhere or do something. Not healthy at all. I'm not a crazy nut lol but come she has me second guessing everything she does now.
But then i started thinking....if she doesn't mind sharing then why should I? I am thinking this is the perfect opportunity to start hitting a swinger's club. Problem is I would really prefer not to till I dropped 50 something lbs which I am working on!
What do I want to do? I love her, and I'd love to share my life with her, but I want to know I'm not waisting my time, of course. And it seams she wants to spend the rest of her life with me.
So what should I do? Should I just play it out and take this to an advantage, or should I mention what I have seen in her phone? Also, she has this habit of not being very slick. She would sign in on my computer to check her emails, save the pw, close browser, and if i go back to email account pw is there and saved. I have confirmed she emails herself pics of these guys and their privates and saves them in an email folder. I almost want to say she is setting me up to see what I say, but I can't be that gullible. This all feels real between her and those guys.
