What do *you* think about this love?
Hey guys and especially girls,
I appreciate everyone's opinion about this to be post down below as long if you read completely and made some thoughts about it. For that sake I try to keep it short, yet informative.
I've been a depressive (now 19yo) nerd and turtling at home for several years, very rarely going out, only really having social contact at school and soccer. I tried to break out of this for several times, but couldn't manage to. When I already stood at the edge of a bridge I knew I had to make at least one last try, and really jump over my shadows this time. Then I went out on new year's eve and we got to a (now 18yo) girl's house, who I one week later met again and we started to attract each other really fast. It kinda went from there, to my surprise I didn't mess up anything right away. I don't want to narrate the whole story, however the outcome after 4 months was my feelings never stopped rising, and I'm sure I don't just like her because I didn't manage to get any other in 19 years, but because she really has everything and even more than that i could ever imagine a dream girl having.
But what went wrong?
After avoiding contact for almost the last 2 weeks, we finally got to speak and she broke up, because she thinks we're too different. Basically she meant we went out too little. And she is right, while I went out more than before I've stood at the bridge (which is not hard) it still was below average. I counted 8-12 things we did outside of our homes in about 18 weeks (we only live 2 kms away from each other). That's of course too little. The tragic thing is i realized that myself about 1-2 days before she started avoiding contact and I really would have loved to do much more action with her, but didn't get the chance anymore. And she also told me at break up day that she got frustrated when I refused to take on any of her proposals on what to do. While that was only 2-3 times I can still see that rejection gets you frustrated very fast and you don't try anymore making proposals and only hope that it changes (early enough).
So she said she bottled up all this and now lost feelings for me cause we weren't doing enough together.
After being very down for 2 days, now i plan to get her back. I plan to let some time without contact past and let her see via facebook (so no personal contact) that I'm enjoying life and doing what I meant to do with her anyways. The plan is to turn the tides by getting her to the point where she wants me back.
Unsorted stuff:
-I know why she left
-I managed to give a dignified farewell cause I love her so much I just want her to be happy, even if that means without me
-We never had any other problems/arguements
EDIT:-We met like 2-4 times a week but most of the time just sat at our parent's houses instead of doing something exciting outside
How do you think my chances are to get my girl's feelings back? And do you have any other advice and suggestions about maximizing this chance? And let me know if i missed out on something important ;)
Looking forward to your opinions, Hernandez
