offered pleasure...take it or leave it?

I am currently on my menstral cycle...therefore, not having sex with my man...however, I ALWAYS offer to please him, because its not his fault im bleeding, so he shouldnt have to go unsatisfied, and I enjoy pleasing him...however last night he told me if was unfair to me if I get him off, and I dont get off too. Sometimes he will let me do it, but then other times, like last night, he isnt interested...I am not really upset about it...just wondering why he would turn it down, and then this morning asked for oral before I left the house knowing I didnt have the time...

7 views and no opinion????????

He just wasn't in the mood.

Contrary to popular belief, there are times when guys just don't want to have sex, and it's pretty conceited of you to think there is something wrong with him for turning you down.

Also, most guys don't find one-sided sex all that exciting because a large part of their pleasure comes from pleasing the girl they are with.

I guess this morning, he just got horny. :)

Carl.

Carl...you are amazing, you always give great insight. he did tell me that he would have had sex if i wasnt bleeding. so maybe you are right. i dont think there is anything "wrong" with him...I just found it strange because hes usually always up for sex or sexually related things. He likes pleasing me, and i know that...but why cant I just enjoy pleasing him too?

Maybe he really did fell selfish and then realized that he had stupidly turned down any number of future blowjobs. Maybe he noticed your feelings were hurt and wanted to make it right.

God, you are so suspicious, annoyed23. I get the feeling you make things harder for yourself than they really need to be.

im not suspicious...im self contious.

Talk about morning wood.

If your man doesn't want you, I do.

Carl's right, sex without mutual pleasure just ins't that exciting or enjoyable tbh. Part of the enjoyment is watching and feeling each other squirm with pleasure. You get to watch him squirm so you like it but it doesn't go both ways in that situation.

F*ck that, I still get blow jobs, hands jobs, and boob jobs when she's bleeding.