What conversations are safe?
This is kind of a follow-up or an addition to my original post, "Am I forever stuck on the "Just Friends" List," but I was thinking about it today and thought I would share:
It's been awhile now since it occured to me that having a relationship with my friend probably isint going to happen, and Im still trying to get over it. It's easier than it was, but I still find myself thinking about it regularly. She said she wasnt going to let it effect the relationship, and for the most part it hasnt on her part. However, it HAS effected me, even though I tried not to let it. The amount of contact we have had recently has declined, partly because we've both been busy, and partly because It's hard for me to talk to her and know in the back of my head that "this is it". That may sound selfish but I cant think of any better way to describe it. I hate that I dont talk to her as much, but I dont know what to do.
Example. There is a girl I work with that Ive kind of been talking to, (although she is nowhere NEAR my feelings for this girl ), and I would usually talk about this to my friends, but I dont know if I should with her or not.
Then there are the times that she calls me, and it's usually just to talk. We just talk and talk for sometimes over an hour about almost anything, theres no telling where the conversation will go. In retrospect, we talk about the DUMBEST things, but I wouldnt trade it for anything. I cant do that with any of my other friends, I dunno, we just....dont.
I feel that we are close enough to talk about anything, but I dont know what all I should. I dont want her to think that I dont like talking to her, but I dont want to say the wrong things if there is even the SLIGHTEST possibility that we could have a relationship down the road.
I dont know what to do, Im just really confused right now.
I know this must be really confusing to read, but I guess I just want to know:
What topics shouldnt I bring up when we talk?
Is there anything I SHOULD be bringing up?
Am I nieve or wasting my time thinking that something may come of this?
Should I explain why it's hard for me to talk?
Once again, I PUT IT TO YOU! PLEASE SEND HELP!