How to solve/handle this disagreement?
My partner and I are having quite a strange disagreement, it seems like a silly petty fight to close friend who i have told. Maybe it is, but it is really getting on my nerves.
I wanted to come here and ask what someone elses opinions or if anyone has any advice it would be great..
So i really love men with a decent amount of hair. Its my preference, i am actually really turned off by a man with no pubic hair, chest hair etc.. My partner has the perfect amount, we have talked about how much i love how he looks and how much i would dislike it if he shaved.
Well 2 days ago, he shaved everything off. Pubes, ass, stomach, chest. He took his clothes off before telling me and i was honestly kind of shocked. I reacted in the wrong way, i know i did. I asked him why he would do that when he knows exactly how much of a turn off for me it is.. I also asked if it was for someone else.. Wrong way to react i know.
We were discussing it, i said i still love him and are attracted to him, but i just didnt understand why he would shave when he knew i didnt like it..
I used an example of me, he dislikes bigger girls, i would say im pretty average. 5'3 115lbs. I asked how he would feel if i purposely put on weight knowing he would dislike it.. His answer was.. 'You are not skinny'.
I was so hurt by this, i worked my ass off to get to my weight i am after having my daughter. I was beginning to feel sexy around him and now i feel like a fat pig..
Now we are both hurt, i am upset with him and feeling stubborn about it all after his remark... I was trying to say i loved him just how he is, i felt he was saying he wants me to change.
I am not sure how to take this, its making me angry to be honest and it feels stupid that it has all started over some shaved pubes.
Any advice? Thanks for listening.