I HATE the fact Boyfriend was previously engaged!
Hi all,
Just looking for a bit of advice here.
I am in a fantastic relationship with a wonderful man. We have been together for 7 months or so, and I truly believe he is the one for me.
We are late 20's/ early 30's.
Last year he told me that he has been engaged before. They were together 5-6 years and thought that marriage is what they "should do"' . He (and his friends) have told me that the relationship was very messy and they cancelled the wedding 2 times. They bought a house together and then split. No contact since.
This was over three years ago now, and I absolutely believe he holds no feeling for her.
However,
Heres the thing though. I HATE IT!
5 days out of 7 the thought of her (and them) consumes me. I struggle to breath and eat, and I dream about her and I often think to myself "I CANT DO THIS!"
He has asked me to move in with him, (to the house they shared) and I SO want to, but I don't feel as if I can until I get all this sorted in my head!
I honestly don't know what to do to get out of this mindset.
I expressed when he first told me about it, that I did not like it, That it I am disappointed that he has done all these things (that we all hope to do only once) with somebody else.,
He does not know that it is as big of a problem for me that it is.
I feel it to be unfair to talk to him about it, that it is my insecurity/crazyness, not his!
I don't want him to feel that he is not doing enough to re assure me/ comfort me etc, because that is not the case.
I'm not even sure what the feeling are. Jealousy? feeling threatened? I don't know!
Words of wisdom please!
xx