Why are they still texting?
My husband became emotionally attached to a women at work (he doesn't know I know) She has since left the company but from looking at his phone I know they have had contact. In defense of my husband it looks as if he has tried to distance himself, but I know he cares for her (reasons for how I know will take too long) We do not have a physical relationship, in truth I think he stays with me not because he loves me, but because he is a good man. However, I don't believe there has been physical contact between them either.
My problem is, yesterday his mood changed, periodically it often does and yet again when checking his phone I found a flurry of texts between him and her. In the past I have ignored them but this time I feel worried.
She texted him to wish him a Happy Christmas and she hoped Santa would give him everything he wished for. He replied mmmmmm..... Im not that lucky! (is this code for.... I want sex with you?) she replied let me give you some advice if you want your wish.... go home, take a bubble bath together, soap each other all over, kiss, caress, cuddle, probe and love.... Kaching!!! don't need to thank me just call me Santa's little helper! ;) (is this code for lets have sex) At one stage there were several texts from her without a reply from him until she said "as my texts appear unwelcome I'll jingle off to pastures new" to which he replied "sorry I've just been really busy today". If he wasn't interested why didn't he let her crawl back under her stone.
He's treated me with contempt since yesterday, I know he only stays with me because I'm ill and he's holding true to his vows. What game are they playing? Do you think they have moved to the physical?
Please give advice as to how he may be feeling, is he turned on, are they sexting, does he still have feelings for her? I feel sick and dare not ask him just in case he uses the argument as an excuse to leave. Please give advice I feel sick with worry.
Thanks