what does it take to be considered girlfriend material??
Ok so im 20 years old and havent had a boyfriend since i was 14/15, and have only been on dates with 2 guys since then. Every guy ive ever been into since i was 16 has shown definate interest, lead me on, but chose another girl over me, and they all knew i liked them. They either already had a gf (2 guys), got back with an ex gf within 3 months (2 guys) or got a new gf within a few months (2 guys). im always the 'other girl' to 'THE girl' and i want to change this. i am tired of constantly being infatuated with guys who dont take me seriously and break my heart. i want to fall in love with someone who will love me back but it seems like every guy i meet just wants to have sex with me and doesnt see me as girlfriend material. I have had guys like me and want to be with me for more than sex, but this was before i grew boobs. before i was 17 i had close guy friends who were genuinely into me but i wasnt into them as more than a friend. This has happened with every close guy friend ive ever had, once they finally accept its not going to happen with us they stop being my friend. so i have no close guy friends anymore and havent since i was 17. and everyone i know and meet, girls and guys, r fascinated with my boobs and cant get past them cos im skinny so apparantly they look too perfect and fake. i dont dress like a slut but even when i was a virgin people thought i was easy cos i get a lot of guy attention and im a flirt and kiss a lot of guys, but that doesnt mean im sleeping with them i mean r people really that dumb? lately ive toned down the kissing though and have been trying my best not to lead guys on that im not into cos i dont want everyone to think im a tease.. but cos im nice, every guy thinks im into them! its like i have to tell them repeatedly n make it completely obvious by being rude sometimes for them to get the message and stop thinking im playing hard to get.
i try to show guys my best personality but i just dont think they can get past my body n not just see me as a sex object theyd like to have a bit of fun with but nothing more. I always end up feeling like a fool thinking they actually liked my personality as well, when they probably didnt care about my personality at all. i try so hard to get them to like me for me.. i make them laugh, we have fun, theyre always smiling when we interact, conversation flows easily and we get along great, we have chemistry and are attracted to each other, we have many cute flirty interactions and i feel like we are connecting very well. i dont know what the problem is, i feel like we'd make a great couple and they act like they think the same, but at the end of the day for some reason they choose another girl over me and probably only wanted me for sex.
What does it take for guys to see u as girlfriend material and not just a girl to have a bit of fun with but dont want anything serious with? i dont want to have to change my personality and be boring to be seen as the girlfriend type but if thats what it takes maybe i should try it because im tired of being lonely while most of the people i know are in relationships. it is really depressing me atm and has been for a long time.