Doubst about a guy sexuality

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01-05-17, 08:31 AM
rgfred

Doubst about a guy sexuality

First of all, sorry for my english (English is not my mother tongue). Also, I may have to write a lot to explain my situation, but I will try to resume it as most as I can. To the story make sense, I also have to say that I am a man.

I met a guy around 6 months ago. We are both members of a Soccer Team Forum. I would always see him posting, but we never talked with each other. One day, I found his Facebook Profile and added him, but he never accepted, so I decide to let it go. But one day, while chatting on the forum, one of the members asked my age, and I said that I would not say it. That is when the guy that I added posted: ''We all know that you are 24yo''. I told him ''How do you know that? Have you been stalking me?'' and he said ''I am not a staker, you are the one that added me on Facebook''.

At the same moment, he added me on Facebook, started a chat through there and said : ''Bet you are stalking me right now''. I laughed and said that I have already found his Instagram, and he asked for mine, so ''he could stalk me too''. He told me that I was older than him, and out of the blue, he said ''If we had hookup in the beggining of the year, it would be pedophilia, did you think about that?''. I got confused, but did not say anything, just laughed. I asked him about an ex girlfriend of him that he mentioned in the forum once, and he laughed and said that ''It was just a lie, it was all made up''. This is only the beggining of the story, there is more and I will let you know, but first I would like some opinions, he never mentioned, but It seemed to me like he was gay, I don't see why he would say those things unless he was trying to give me a sign..But the thing is that he also mentioned being with girls and stuff like that. That is getting me really confused. I know that I also did not make it clear that I am gay but he also did not. Do you guys think that I am making things up or is there a chance of him being gay to according to the things he said?
01-05-17, 06:03 PM
Aceplicit

He could be bi, you know.
And it kinda looked like he was flirting with you.
01-05-17, 11:09 PM
rgfred

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Originally Posted by Aceplicit [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

He could be bi, you know.
And it kinda looked like he was flirting with you.

We never said nothing about us liking boys, even tho we mentioned some girls we've hooked up with. The strange thing is that we've been talking like we have something. We started talking about our favorite series, he watched some of mine and I watched some of yours. Somedays we would spent the whole day talking about random stuff, till late night. Also share songs, I tell him some musics for him to listend and give me his opinion and he would do the same. Things have been going like this for months. When we go out to places like bar, we keep talking about the beers and the songs (Two things that we both like a lot). What I find weird is that even when he is out with friends in places like that, he prefers to keep chatting. Many times while he is drinking at a bar that we both like, he text me and tells me to go to his city, so we can go there together. That gets me very confused. I've never met or talked with another guy before, I really don't know how people act in those situations, all I know is that we have never been clear about nothing, but there are some situations that I see as ''signs'' that he was giving me. But since I am depressive and have been taking medicines, I sometimes think that I am making this whole thing in mind. That he is just a nice guy that I met and that I am seeing things the wrong way.
02-05-17, 02:21 AM
Aceplicit

Well, why don't you try to be a bit more explicit with him ? I don't know, like make innuendos ? Or tell him that you hooked up with a guy once to see his reaction ? You talked about hooking up with girls, so it's not uncommon for you to talk about this sort of things if the subject comes up again.
02-05-17, 05:14 AM
rgfred

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Originally Posted by Aceplicit [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Well, why don't you try to be a bit more explicit with him ? I don't know, like make innuendos ? Or tell him that you hooked up with a guy once to see his reaction ? You talked about hooking up with girls, so it's not uncommon for you to talk about this sort of things if the subject comes up again.

That is a great idea. I will try to see if I can bring up the topic somehow. Just afraid that he won't say anything about..Like, getting quiet to show he does not wanna talk about it, let's see. But I have one question, is is weird if we mention that we are seeing someone? Or is is normal? Even we being close, we don't have anything, so I think it is ok to mention..But at the same time I don't see it as something you would tell to someone you are interested in. Any thoughs about it?