Prior to meeting my partner I had been single and celibate for five years as I had been hurt really badly. My fiancée of five years met me and romanced me and chased me to go out with him. He was separated, getting divorce and had joint custody of his three kids. Granted, that was never a situation I saw myself in but he was a PC, so straightforward and loving and made such an effort with me and my family I thought I had found the one. We never argue or bicker, never had breaks everything seemed perfect apart from the divorce. As he had his kids 50% of the time and his wife was making the divorce hard I didn't go down to his place. I have never met his parents, I had spoken to his mum she told me that his ex is very difficult and she will stop them seeing the kids so they wanted everything to be finalised.
I have friends whose kids never ever see their fathers so I have been super understanding and loyal giving him the time he needed to make things right. Not just for him but mainly his children.
Anyway, a few weeks ago for the first time I said let me see your phone and he went mad so I knew something wasn't right. Did some digging and sadly have found out that he has never left his wife, they are still living together and have never been separated. I was a mistress, not through choice as I would never ever do that to another woman or myself.
I am truly heartbroken and mostly shocked, as I would not in a million years have thought he could lie like that and remember them. He lied to me every single days for five years and hard to know what was true. He has said that he has moved out and told everyone but who is to know.
And, his mum who I have spoken to wasn't his mum at all, it was a friend of his who agreed to the charade.
Love him to bits but its unforgiveable isn't it?