Need her back

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11-08-17, 07:04 AM
aaronyeah

Need her back

Yesterday the love of my life broke up with me out of the blue. I could tell that she was acting a tiny bit off for about a week prior, but we have been able to get through everything situation that has come our way. This girl is the most unique person i've ever known and I cannot imagine ever wanting to live a life with anybody but her. Her reasoning for ending the relationship was that she needs time alone. She said she's been feeling empty and she wants to take a semester off of work and school and live in another state with her sister. She said that this is something she has had with her since before we even started dating, and for the past two years she had never shown any similar symptoms. Now, I am COMPLETELY open to giving her as much space as she needs, but what is hurting me and worrying me the most is that she doesn't want me to sit around waiting for her and she does't want to keep dragging me into this limbo she is in, but I would want nothing more than to face her demons with her. She wants us to completely end everything for good. She doesn't want the thought of me being there waiting for her. She is a very stubborn and prideful women, so even if she ever did need me she would never show it. We had our whole futures planned out in front of us. I had my proposal plans, we've talked about our future kids and what kind of wedding we want and what moves we need to make together in the future. And all of a sudden she tells me she wants everything to be over. This woman is a part of me. I could never give up on her or the love that we have. I would rather die before I lose her. I don't know what to do. I am going to give her her space of course, but I need to know if she still loves me. Should I ask just ask her? I don't want to push her away more. Even if she tells me she no longer loves me, I can't walk away from this woman. By some miracle I made her fall in love with me once, and i'll never give up trying to make it happen again. We were supposed to conquer the world one day, and the next everything just feels so empty.
11-08-17, 11:28 AM
GLYC

Here's what you do, you express that you love her company, and want to work things out. However, you accept that she wants to part ways. You tell her to call you if she ever changes her mind and feels the same.

Then you leave. If she wants you again, she will contact you.

This is how a man settles things like this.
You're true to your purpose while acknowledging her decision, even if it isn't what you want, you realize you only have control over what you do.
12-08-17, 11:12 AM
Snow White

If you want to know if she still loves you, of course you should ask her! But, I think she is being pretty blunt with you. She is not asking you to wait for you while she figures things out. Perhaps talking about a future together made her think she's not ready or wants something more.

You can't make someone fall in love with you again or keep their feelings from changing. She is asking you to let go and that is what you must do for both your sakes.
14-08-17, 05:22 AM
GLYC

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Originally Posted by Snow White [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

If you want to know if she still loves you, of course you should ask her! But, I think she is being pretty blunt with you. She is not asking you to wait for you while she figures things out. Perhaps talking about a future together made her think she's not ready or wants something more.

You can't make someone fall in love with you again or keep their feelings from changing. She is asking you to let go and that is what you must do for both your sakes.

I disagree with the part about asking if she's in love with you. That's more if a female thing to ask for that reassurance. The rest i agree with. I would just say, "Look, I want to work things out but if you don't. I'm out of here. I really enjoy being with you. Let me know if you ever change your mind"

Male energy is about being direct and assertive. It's okay to display caring and sensitive qualities at times, of course. Women want to be reassured That you care.

Besides, women will just give you a wishy washy answer regardless. You won't get the truth with that question, look at her actions. I think they suggest she doesn't. Actions speak louder than words.